“Give up defining yourself - to yourself or to others. You won't die. You will come to life. And don't be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it's their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don't be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.”-Ekhart Tolle
The pain can come from trying to be... what we think we should be, how we should act, what we should do. Whatever role we feel we must play, whether it be parent or child, or boss or victim, or spiritual or rebel, cannot be even close to the conscious presence.
The freedom and peace come from the flow of the present, the awareness of what is right here and now, not the role.
May we be in touch with the divine that we are and may we move in this world from that place.
The Abundant 8 - The Master's Path to Creation