In the Art of Dreaming Don Juan tells Carlos Castaneda, "... most of our energy goes into upholding our importance... if we were capable of losing some of that importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusory idea of our grandeur; and two we would provide ourselves with enough energy to catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe."
The amount of energy and judgements against ourselves that we use to uphold our ego selves, the way we "should" be, can be big. A good father would...A good businessman would...A good spiritual being would... Those come out of a script, not the energy and the higher intelligence of the present moment.
Go to your breath, be conscious of the NOW, and open to the "grandeur of the universe."