"Do not surrender your grief so quickly
Let it cut more deeply
Let it ferment and season you
As few human or divine ingredients can
Something is missing in my heart tonight
That has made my eyes so soft
And my voice so tender
And my need of God so absolutely clear."
Surrender yourself to the grief, or any emotion that you judge as not "happy, spiritual, good" instead of judging it, or trying to distract yourself from it
In surrendering yourself to the experience you will gain wisdom.
Surrender to the acceptance, the first law of Spirit. You also can allow the Divine Presence to come in and bring forward the balm of peace.
Painting by Thomas Cole