"This is a path of great noise and great silence. A path of great serenity and great trouble. A path of total fulfillment and complete emptiness. How can it be these things?
That is where God resides - in all of this."
If God resides in all of it then there is nothing to judge.
Focus on where you want to go and let go of the other.
Be kind to yourself.
Look for the good and do your best with the rest.
Peace be still.
Painting by Albert Beirstadt