"Give up defining yourself - to yourself or to others. You won't die. You will come to life. And don't be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it's their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don't be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.”-Tolle
The stories we tell ourselves about who we are, the stories others craft about us, are just that...stories.
There is an energy, a flow, a knowing that is under that. It is the foundation. Call it Soul, Spirit, the I AM. This runs like a stream and is never changing. It is awareness.
Go to the truth of who you are...and let it set you free.